PENGuMuMaN!!

Emosi yang tak stabil adalah perkara biasa dalam hidup saya sekarang~ (o_O✿)

Time kasih coz sudi singgah ke blog picisan lagi mengarut ni. Blog ini adalah blog peribadi saya sendiri. Maka sebarang pendapat, statement, gambar2, dan segala-galanya yang di hakktuihhkan adalah milik tuan tanah blog ini (saya la tu) melainkan sumbernya dinyatakan oleh saya sendiri.

Anda boleh 'copy & paste' artikel yang anda suka. TETAPI, sila KREDITkan kembali kepada blog saya.

Blog ini juga TIDAK mengamalkan konsep, "I Follow U so U KENA FOLLOW Blog I".

Jadi, sama-samalah kita memeriahkan dunia blog!! [xde kaitan kot~ ahaha]

Psssstt...my English memang ke laut sket. Hahahaha~
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Friday, November 22, 2013

Doa untuk orang yang berdukacita

Assalamualaikum.

Terlalu banyak cerita dalam hati yang tak mampu Cik Hani nak kongsi dekat blog ni. Tak mampu dan tak sempat. Allahumma Yassir Wa La Tu'assir. Permudahkanlah segala urusanku Ya Allah.

Cik Hani masih dalam keadaan emosi yang tak stabil Tadi, salah seorang kawan FB Cik Hani pun tetiba up status pasal putus asa dan tak mampu nak lalui ujian yang dia lalui.

Bila jadi macam tu, Cik Hani tergerak nak berkongsi sekali doa yang Cik Hani biasa baca waktu bersedih.


Doa ni untuk elak kemudharatan dan gangguan sihir. Tapi, Cik Hani baca jugak doa ni. Cik Hani baca dan setiap kali perkataan La Yadhurru tu, Cik Hani tekankan dalam hati bahawa tiada dukacita yang mampu memudharatkan Cik Hani. Yakin dan ingatkan hati sendiri bahawa tiada dukacita yang mampu memudharatkan kita. Tiada.

Semoga dapat membantu kalian yang sedang berdukacita di luar sana. Dukacita, putus asa, rasa sakit, mengalah dan ingin pergi jauh tu adalah perasaan orang yang tertekan. Berdoa dan yakinlah bahawa Tuhan akan membantu kita lalui waktu kesukaran ni.

Jaga diri, jaga hati.

Monday, October 21, 2013

Relevankah memberi nasihat kepada orang yang sedang berputus asa?


Assalamualaikum,

Harini topik kita serius sikit ye. Moga-moga dapat membantu mereka yang sedang berputus asa mahupun insan2 yang ingin membantu individu yang sedang berputus asa.
 
Secara fitrahnya, individu yang berputus asa akan meluahkan dukacitanya itu kepada orang yang paling dekat dengan hatinya sama ada ahli keluarga mahupun sahabat karib. Namun, nasihat yang seringkali kita dengar (mahupun diberikan) kepada individu tersebut adalah :

Sabarlah, ada hikmah di sebaliknya. Itu semua ketentuan-Nya.
Allah itu Maha Adil. Dia uji sebab dia sayangkan kau. Sabarlah.
Kuatkan hati kau, bila kau bersabar Allah akan membalas semua itu dengan berita gembira.

Masih relevankah memberi nasihat dengan menyuruh mereka bersabar? Bukan mencabar ketentuan takdir atau mahu membuktikan bahawa sabar itu tidak perlu. Tapi, sedarkah kita bahawa mereka memerlukan sokongan kita, mereka berkongsi rasa dengan harapan kita mampu mengurangkan beban jiwa mereka?

Ya, mereka tahu mereka perlu bersabar, mereka tahu mereka perlu menerima takdir, tetapi hati mereka belum cukup kuat untuk semua itu. Cik Hani pernah berada di dalam dua-dua situasi ini, memberi nasihat kepada orang yang berputus asa dan menjadi orang yang berputus asa. Situasinya sangat berbeza.

Menjadi pemberi nasihat kadang kala membuatkan diri kita memandang rendah kepada orang berputus asa kerana mereka seolah-olah tidak mahu menerima takdir. Menjadi orang yang berputus asa pula adalah sangat mendukacitakan bilamana kita menyedari bahawa hidup itu tidak semudah yang diperkatakan dan orang disekeliling kita hanya pandai berkata-kata.

Selepas menjadi orang yang berputus asa, Cik Hani sedar bahawa orang-orang yang berputus asa memerlukan sokongan lebih dari sekadar menasihatkan mereka untuk bersabar.

Hanya individu yang melalui situasi itu yang mengerti situasi sebenar mengapa mereka sukar untuk melangkah pergi atau menjadi kuat dalam tempoh terdekat. Berkongsi duka belum mampu menjelaskan situasi mahupun punca sebenar. Hanya individu tersebut yang mampu mengubah dukacitanya itu kepada kekuatan hati.

Kita seharusnya tidak hanya menggalakkan mereka untuk bersabar tetapi kita harus menyatakan bahawa betapa teringinnya kita untuk melihat mereka gembira dan bahagia serta meninggalkan tompok dukacita itu. Hanya dengan keinginan mereka sendiri, mereka mampu bangkit dari putus asa itu.

Berikan mereka masa untuk menyendiri. Jangan terlalu memaksa mereka untuk bersabar dan menerima takdir. Ingatkanlah seperti mana Allah yang selalu ada untuk hamba-Nya, kita juga berusaha untuk sentiasa berada di sisi mereka. Mungkin kita tidak memahami situasi mahupun perasaan sebenar mereka yang sedang berputus asa, namun kita akan berusaha sebaik mungkin untuk memahami keadaan mereka.

Bertabahlah wahai hati-hati yang sedang berdukacita.
Kuatkan pasakmu wahai hati-hati yang sedang berputus asa.

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

MARI MEMBERI TEGURAN SECARA BIJAK

Assalamualaikum.

Lama jugak Cik Hani tak update blog ni. Alasan lapuk macam biasalah, sibuk. Ni tengah short sem so semua kelas memang padat gile. Cik Hani dah kerja dari Isnin sampai Ahad dah sekarang ni. Adessss~ Makin kurus lahaaaiii~

Okay, sekarang ni disebabkan Cik Hani masih dalam mode kecewa (gittewww), Cik Hani rajin plak blogwalking kat blog Aku Islam ni. Best gile. Banyak nasihat2 yang bagus untuk hati yang dah lama lalai ni. Sooooo, harini Cik Hani nak berkongsi pasal MEMBERI TEGURAN SECARA BIJAK. Kita selalu tak sedar kadang-kadang cara kita menegur orang tu tak sesuai, mungkin melukakan hati dia atau pun nasihat tu tak sampai. Maka, marilah kita sama-sama mempraktikkan cara yang telah dikupas dalam artikel kat bawah ni (ofkoz la Cik Hani kopipes je..kui3~)


Asasnya, memberi teguran dan sentiasa memperbaiki diri dan orang lain tidak dapat dielakkan. Tidak dapat tidak, kita semua pasti akan terlibat di dalam proses ini.
Bermula sejak kecil sehingga meniti ke hari tua.
Memberi teguran adakalanya membawa kesan positif. Tetapi sekiranya kaedah yang digunakan tidak sesuai, maka ia bakal membawa ke arah negatif dan secara tidak langsung ia membentuk sikap defensif bagi pihak yang ditegur.
Oleh itu, mari kita lihat teknik teguran yang sesuai.

Sebelum Memberi Teguran, Sila Betulkan Niat
Apabila terdetik sahaja dalam hati bagi menegur kesilapan orang lain, maka ‘pause’ diri kita terlebih dahulu dan tarik nafas.
Betulkan niat supaya kita tidak terdorong untuk melampiaskan kemarahan ataupun rasa tidak puas hati di atas sikapnya.
Lazimnya, hati yang ikhlas memberi teguran akan lebih mudah diterima. Niat kita yang murni itu akan disampaikan oleh Allah dalam keadaan yang murni juga.
Ini berlawanan sekiranya niat kita memberi nasihat dengan tujuan – tujuan lain, bukan nya tujuan untuk membetulkan kesilapan untuk dibaiki.
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Memberi Teguran dengan Teknik XYZ
Ahli psikologi bernama Haim Ginot mencadangkan satu teknik teguran yang diberi nama “Teknik teguran XYZ”.
Teknik ini menganjurkan kita menggunakan frasa itu semasa menegur, “Apabila anda melakukan perkara X, ia membuatkan saya berasa Y, sebaliknya saya lebih menyukai anda melakukan perkara Z”
Contoh:
Amin apabila kamu buang sampah merata-rata di dalam bilik, saya berasa kurang selesa. Oleh itu, saya lebih suka sekiranya awak buang sampah di tong sampah yang disediakan. pasti awak dan saya berasa selesa dan gembira.
Kesimpulannya, apabila mahu menegur seseorang itu, maka kaedah “bawa berbincang” adalah kaedah terbaik. Elakkan daripada menyentuh peribadi pihak itu.
Hal ini juga mampu membuatkannya lebih terbuka dalam menerima teguran itu.
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Memberi Teguran Yang Tegas Dalam Santun
Gunakan konsep dua dalam satu iaitu tegas dalam santun. Gunakan budi bahasa yang baik dan menyenangkan. Ini dapat mengurangkan kadar peratusan ‘terasa hati’ pada diri seseorang.
Namun, dalam kesantunan melakukan teguran, perlu ada ketegasan. Ini dapat memaparkan secara terus tentang hasrat kita yang bersungguh – sungguh dalam menegurnya.
Kawal emosi secara bijak supaya orang yang ditegur tidak berasa dimarahi.
Ini bertepatan dengan firman Allah kepada Nabi Musa dalam misinya berdakwah kepada Firaun,
Pergi kamu berdua kepada Firaun, sesungguhnya dia telah melampaui batas, berbicara dengannya menggunakan perkataan yang lembut, mudah – mudahan dia akan ingat dan merasa takut (Surah Taha, ayat 33 – 34)
Contoh :
Khairil, saya mintak maaf. Tetapi saya perlu sampaikan teguran ini kepada awak. Saya harap awak tidak lagi mengeluarkan kata – kata kesat pada rakan – rakan lain dan saya. Senang hati saya sekiranya awak dapat berubah.
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Mula Dengan Sesuatu Yang Positif
Manusia mana yang suka ditegur?
Pernah saya dimarahi secara umum apabila lewat tiba ke bilik mesyuarat. Perasaan saya pada waktu itu begitu tidak puas hati walaupun saya sedar kesalahan saya.
Kewajaran “7 kritik 1 puji” dapat digunakan dalam konsep ini. Kita mengambil hati orang yang mahu ditegur, kemudian baru kita menjalankan niat kita tadi. Sebagai contoh:
“Kamu ini saya tengok memang bagus, sembahyang tidak tinggal, hormat ibu bapa, guru – guru sayang kamu, kacak pula. Tapi, satu sahaja yang aku tidak berkenan. Perangai kamu yang suka membuka aurat tu..”
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Memberi Teguran Secara Hikmah

Cara menegur setiap orang adalah berbeza – beza. Cara menegur kanak – kanak dan orang dewasa juga adalah berbeza. Menegur berlainan jantina juga adalah berbeza.
Perhatikan Rules of Thumb ini
Apabila menegur cuba duduk di sebelah orang yang ditegur, bukan di hadapan. Kedudukan di tepi menyebabkan orang yang ditegur kurang berasa defensif berbanding kedudukan di hadapan.
Orang yang tinggi egonya, perlu diberi teguran secara cabaran yang dapat mencabar egonya sehingga dia mahu menunjukkan kebolehannya.
Kadangkala, ada orang yang membuat perangai kerana rasa tidak diperlukan. Orang sebegini perlu diberi lebih peluang memikul tanggungjawab yang lebih besar.

Thursday, September 12, 2013

Status Halal Restoran Pelita


Assalamualaikum.

Kecoh jap gambar kat atas tu kan? Pasal Restoran Pelita ni halal ke tak sebenarnye.



Pasal kes gambar Restoran Pelita yang kecoh jap tu. Ni penjelasan dari orang yang membuat sedikit kajian. Beza antara orang bijak dan sengaja tunjuk bijak adalah USAHA DALAM MENCARI ILMU PENGETAHUAN. Orang bijak, dia berusaha untuk cari pencerahan maklumat tu betul ke tak. Orang tunjuk bijak main share je maklumat tu. Tak tau betul ke tak kan?

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Dari Tuan Zamri Mohamad
Setakat penyelidikan saya, mereka mempunyai kumpulan pengarah, termasuk Muslim.

Maklumat sehingga 2009, ia bukan bisnes warisan keluarga seperti perniagaan India Muslim lain. Ia bermula dari gabungan rakan kongsi

Pelita Samudera bermula dengan lapan rakan kongsi yang mempunyai kemahiran dan latar pendidikan yang berbeza.

Antara mereka merupakan pemimpin agama, arkitek, peniaga, pengurus perniagaan berasaskan makanan dan chef.

Mereka merupakan ahli lembaga pengarah yang dipengerusikan oleh Shamsuri Ahmad.

Rekod sehingga tahun 2003, Jabatan Agama Islam Pulau Pinang telah memastikan sijil halal dikeluarkan selepas 12 orang pekerja dilatih dalam memproses bekalan ayam sebanyak 2,500 hingga 3,000 ekor ayam sehari untuk 10 cawangan restoran Pelita Samudera yang beroperasi pada ketika itu.

Jika foto digunakan seperti ini, sama seperti kita meletakkan foto orang Jepun pemilik AEON JUSCO sedang merasmikan tokong di sana ketika mana pelanggan majoriti Muslim membeli produk di AEON dan membeli sushi di sini.

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Dari Puan Sri Diah Shaharuddin
Saya bersetuju dengan kenyataan Tuan Zamri Mohamad. Ini info yang saya dapat. Restoran Pelita Nasi Kandar mempunyai 7 orang pemegang saham dalam syarikat ini iaitu:
- Dato’ Shamsuri bin Ahmad
- Dato’ Murugan Doraisamy @ Ramesh - muslim
- Uswath Khan bin Kirudu Mohamed – non muslim
- K. K. Sihabutheen bin Kirudu Mohamed - muslim
- Syed Abbas Ali bin Abdul Rahman - muslim
- S. Prebagaran Subramaniam – non muslim
- Azeem Qusairy bin Bardril - muslim
- Berdasarkan Profil Pengurusan ini 5 orang pemegang sahamnya yang lain adalah beragama Islam. >< Ahmad Anas Ismail.
- Pihak JAKIM tidak meletakkan syarat pemilik syarikat mestilah beragama Islam sebagai syarat untuk mendapatkan sijil Halal JAKIM. Oleh itu, isu ini sememangnya tidak wajar diperbesarkan.


Untuk pengetahuan korang, Tuan Zamri tu antara penggerak BACA@LRT and Puan Sri Diah tu adalah penulis novel and sekarang bertugas di Karangkraf. Seronok berkawan dengan orang-orang pandai yang memang suka buat research ni (cuma Cik Hani je tak lekat perangai tu. Bwahahaha!!) daripada deal dengan orang2 yang selalu tunjuk pandai ni.

So, kesimpulannya kalau anda rasa was was dengan restoran pelita ni hala ke tak, tak payah la pergi kalau tak yakin. Dalam Islam pun dah cakap kalau was was tu better jangan buat kan? Kalau Solat was was pun kita kena start or buat balik kan? So, the choice is yours.

Sunday, January 20, 2013

Tips Menjadi Pengapit (yang berjaya)

Assalamualaikum.

Ada 2 pesanan penaja di sini ye.

Pertama : Sila jangan terkejut dengan layout and header buruk tu ye. Last minute punye editing tu. Plus mood yang tak bagus, dan pakai picmonkey je pun. Ngeh3~

Kedua : Sila jangan geli2 baca tajuk entry kali ni. Hahahaha!!

Untuk pengetahuan semua pembaca dan pengikut blog picisan Cik Hani ni (terima kasih), dah 4 kali rasanya Cik Hani jadi pengapit. Yeke? Macam dah terlebih pun ada. Ahahahaha!! Orang tua-tua cakap, kalau jadi pengapit lebih daripada 3x, kompom kawen lambat. Tidakkkkkkkkkkk!!!!! Naseb bek muka still nampak muda walaupun tak berape mude sangat. Ahahahahah!!

Okay, back to our topic. Sila abaikan karutan di atas. Since Cik Hani dah beberapa kali jadi pengapit, Cik Hani nak berkongsi la sedikit tips yang mungkin mmbantu korang2 yang nak jadi pengapit ni kan..ehehehehe~

1. Make up & Pakaian
     Ini antara perkara yang paling penting saat korang membuat keputusan untuk jadi pengapit. Korang kenalah tanya si pengantin ni, apa warna tema dia, or apa warna tema pengapit lelaki. Ada sesetengah pengantin, dia nak pengapit pakai baju sama warna tema dengan keluarga dia. Ada sesetengah tu plak, dah tetapkan pengapit pakai baju warna yang tertentu which is sama warna dengan pengapit lelaki tetapi berbeza warna dengan ahli keluarga dia. Sila pastikan yang warna tema baju korang sama dengan warna tema pengantin atau warna tema baju pengapit pengantin. Seelok-eloknya pakai baju yang ada poket or kalau boleh suai padankan dengan sling bag kecil tu lagi bagus. Sebabnya? Nanti Cik Hani terangkan.

     Untuk make up, seelok-eloknya make up la sikit. Tapi jangan OTT (over the top) and lawan pengantin punye make up. Agak2 la juga kan? Hehehe~ Sapa yang suke pakai fake eyelashes tu pun boleh pakai, tapi better pakai yang natural and bulu halus2 je instead of pakai yang bulu tebal ala-ala Che Ta tu kan..ehehe~ Kalau pengantin apply nude make up or light make up, adalah lebih afdhal sekiranya korang pakai foundation selapis je, apply 1 color for eye shadow, thin layer or black / brown eyeliner, sedikit blusher dan lip gloss. Tu pun dah memadai.


2. Makan
     Sila pastikan korang makan dahulu sebelum majlis bermula. Sarapan tu penting. Kalau boleh sarapan yang berat2 sket. Sila pastikan pengantin juga dah sarapan ye. Diorang ni kadang2 risaukan sangat pasal majlis sampai lupe nak makan. Time bersanding mana boleh makan. Dah masa makan beradab pun makan alahai....sikit bebenor. Huhuhu~


3. Barang-barang penting pengantin.
     Adalah penting untuk pengapit yang tolong pegangkan telefon bimbit pengantin. Biasanya orang akan telefon pengantin kalau diorang dah sesat ke tak jumpa jalan ke hape kan. Jadi, amatlah bagus sekiranya korang boleh ingat jalan-jalan kebenaran untuk ke rumah pengantin sebab biasanya diorang akan call time pengantin bersandinglah, time makan la, time make up la, dan macam-macam time lagi. Ahahaha!

     Alang-alang dah pegangkan telefon pengantin tu, bila pengantin tangkap gambar keluarga atau kawan2 secara berjemaah, silalah ringankan tulang untuk snap barang sekeping dua gambar menggunakan handphone si pengantin. Kesian diorang. Diorang pun nak juga gambar kenangan kan?

     Berdasarkan pengalaman juga, better pengapit sediakan tisu/span foundation tu untuk lap peluh, buang bunga rampai kat tangan pengantin, lap air mata pengantin dan sebagainya. Gula-gula pun sesuai untuk dibawa dalam 2 3 biji sebab bila kita kurang minum air, mulut kita cepat berbau. So, gula2 tu akan membantu korang and pengantin sebab orang ramai akan jumpa and tegur and peluk dan macam-macam lagi la. So, inilah antara sebab kenapa korang better pakai baju ada poket, sebab agak tak senonoh kalau pengapit berjalan sambil pegang gule2 kat tangan. Hehehe~

4. Lain-lain
     Sebagai pengapit, silalah tolong pengantin untuk tengok2 kan hantaran, bantal akad nikah, dan segala macam cekadak cekudut lagi. Masa Cik Hani jadi pengapit untuk akad nikah mak cik Cik Hani, 2, 3 kali berulang balik ke rumah sebab memula bunga tangan tinggal, pastu bantal akad nikah tinggal, pastu cincin untuk lelaki boleh tinggal. (-  -") Mujur jugak la rumah dengan masjid tak jauh sangat. Uhuhu~

     Untuk majlis dengan protokol, sila ambil perhatian yang lebih serius. Kebiasaan majlis dengan protokol ni bila melibatkan Dato' Datin Puan Sri Tan Sri dan segala macam pangkat lagi. Biasanya, majlis camni ni ade melibatkan rehearsal. Silalah hadir pada rehearsal tu ye. Untuk majlis dengan protokol juga, ada sesetengah tu, pengapit tak duduk sebelah sebab tempat tu diisi dengan VVVVVIP majlis. SOOooo, untuk situasi ini, takpe, masa berarak masuk dewan, jalan je macam biasa dengan pengantin, bila pengantin dah duduk, sila pastikan pakaian ke veil ke hape dalam keadaan sempurna sebelum tinggalkan pengantin. Bagitahu pengantin lokasi korang kat mana. Dalam setiap 10 min ke 15 min ke 30 min ke, datang balik pada pengantin and tanya la kalau dia perlukan pape macam tisu ke handphone ke kan. Check jugak make up and pakaian pengantin. Masa makan beradab camni, bunga tangan better PENGAPIT yang pegang ye.


Okayyy. Rasanya cukuplah kot banyak ni tips-tips dari Cik Hani. It just my 20 cents. Sapa2 yang nak kongsi pengalaman and petua petuwi, boleh la komen and share dengan Cik Hani ye.

Sekian dari saya,
Pengapit yang berjaya.


Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Cik Hani Sakit Jantung?

Assalamualaikum.

Dah lama Cik Hani tak update blog ni. Sian dia dah berhabuk. pukk~ pukk~ pukk~ (tepuk2 buang habuk). Semalam and kelmarin Cik Hani MC. Sakit lama datang balik. Sakit dada sampai susah nak bernafas. Tapi dah check, bukan sakit jantung tapi Costochondritis. Nama tak menahan kan? Ahahaha~ Nak tau ape benda tu? Sila sambung bacaan anda.

Costochondritis (kos-toe-KHON-dri-tis) is an inflammation of the cartilage that connects a rib to the breastbone (sternum) — a junction known as the costosternal joint. Pain caused by costochondritis may mimic that of a heart attack or other heart conditions.
Your doctor might refer to costochondritis by other names, including chest wall pain, costosternal syndrome and costosternal chondrodynia. When the pain of costochondritis is accompanied by swelling, it's referred to as Tietze syndrome.
Most cases of costochondritis have no apparent cause. In these cases, treatment focuses on easing your pain while you wait for costochondritis to improve on its own.

Illustration of rib cage and breastbone 
 

Costochondritis most commonly affects the upper ribs on the left-hand side of your body. Pain is often worst where the rib cartilage attaches to the breastbone (sternum), but it can also occur where the cartilage attaches to the rib.
Most cases of costochondritis have no clear cause. Occasionally, however, costochondritis may be a result of:
  • Injury. A blow to the chest could cause costochondritis.
  • Physical strain. Heavy lifting and strenuous exercise have been linked to costochondritis, as has severe coughing.
  • Arthritis. In some people, costochondritis has been linked to specific problems, such as osteoarthritis, rheumatoid arthritis and ankylosing spondylitis.
  • Joint infection. The rib joint itself can become infected by viruses, bacteria or fungi. Examples include tuberculosis, syphilis and aspergillosis.
  • Tumors. Noncancerous and cancerous tumors also can cause costochondritis. Cancer may travel to the joint from another part of the body, such as the breast, thyroid or lung.
Sooo...basically, Costochondritis ni sebenarnya muscle area dada tu bengkak and menekan tulang selangka kita yang menyebabkan kesukaran untuk bernafas, batuk, malah ketawa. Ohohoho~ Iyeee...sakit sampai nak ketawa pun susah. Uhuhuhu~

Sekian sahaja dari Dr. Hani (belum dapat pentauliahan). Doakan saya cepat sembuh. Aminnn~

sumber : MayoClinic

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

SAFETY TIPS. MUST READ!

I received a very useful tips especially for female.
 
 
TIPS FOR MANAGING YOUR SAFETY - USE SOME COMMON SENSE
 
 
Please share them with those you care for.
 
Capt. Balasubramaniam who is an expert on rescue and survival shared this with some attendees in one of his programmes. 
What he emphasized was that we should never put ourselves in a dangerous and vulnerable position and this usually just entails 
some common sense and alertness most of the time. Of course things do happen no matter how careful you are.
 
 
At the Car park:
Do not walk towards your car. Walk towards the next car or the car opposite.
Do lock your car immediately you get in and drive off ASAP. Please don’t check your cellphone, your makeup, etc.
 
At the ATM:
Use your ring finger to key in your pin, as the rest of the fingers will cover the keypad.
Do not count your money at the atm. After all it’s not going to give you what it owes to you.
 
In a taxi:
Pretend to make a phone call to your friend/husband informing them where you are, what time you are expected, the colour of taxi, 
taxi no etc. you must of course talk within earshot of the driver.
 
If you live alone:
Do get some men’s clothing’s and shoes. Hang them out with your own laundry! Leave the men’s shoes outside your house.
Do leave radio/TV on.
Do be suspicious if you receive calls that seem to have got the wrong number.
 
If you have husbands who travel regularly:
Do drive his car when he is not around as opportunists will notice that his car is dusty and in the same spot for many days.
 
If you have children tell them:
Never to post photos of your new car on Facebook.
Never to reveal that they are ‘home alone’ or parents are away.
 
Also, get the telephone number of the police station in your area and list it as the first number in your phone contact list rather 
than list it under P.
Calling 999 in an emergency will be a futile attempt.
 
Safety Gadgets:
1.Keeping a loudhailer at home would be more effective than screaming and shouting for help in an emergency 
 
2.Install sensor light 
 
3.Pepper spray - they have a shelf life. So you must check the expiry date otherwise it will fail you when you need to use it!
Capt. Bala recommends that pepper sprays must be
a. Water based
b. Must be US made with finger ring on the bottom
c. Must have double casing. 
 
4. Alarm padlocks.

5. Throw some thumbtacks up the opening in the ceiling (what do you call that?) for those who live in link houses.
 
If you are ever, so unfortunate to have your bag snatched, do not struggle with the assailant. Let go and do not chase after them. Neither should your husband/boyfriend/son.
 
When you drop your friend/loved ones home, especially those who live in apartments, get them to text you once they are inside the safety of their homes. I think we should drill this in to our sons who drop off their girlfriends.
 
SMASH AND GRAB ROBBERS ATTACKED ABOUT 5 CASES A DAY FROM MAY TO JUNE 2012
WHAT IS THE STATISTIC FOR JULY? HAVE YOU TINTED YOUR CAR YET? DO YOU ALWAYS WAKE UP LATE AND YOU LIKE TO RUSH DAILY?
 
Please make sure you are not adding to this statistic.
1. Do not rush from work or to work. Breathe! Start early.
2. Put your valuables away, and carry less in your handbag. Get a debit card. Consolidate your banking accounts. 
3. Forget about all these labelled bags until Malaysia gets peaceful again
4. Never talk on your cellphone, and i mean never when driving 
5. Pay attention to pillion driver that operate in pairs.  
 
At traffic lights, keep a distance from the car in front of you. If they attack you, 
just swerve you car at them. HONK, HONK, HONK Loud…..they could have tailed you.. 
 
6. try not to wear too much jewelry, ie. big gold, flashy loopy earrings and long gold chain- you will be asking to be grabbed, and they will smash from the right  
7. avoid big gold bangles and expensive fancy watches 
8. keep a pair of sunglasses and wear them when driving, but not at night 
9. plan your diary well, smash and grab robbers attack people even when there are two of you in the car. 
10. these robbers attack mostly from 7.00 to 10 am and also from 4 to 7.00pm. Peak, rush hours.

Thursday, February 23, 2012

Keturunan Avatar?

Found this article in Yahoo page. Sounds funny but feel sorry for them as well.


Benjamin "Benjy" Stacy so frightened maternity doctors with the color of his skin -- "as Blue as Lake Louise" -- that he was rushed just hours after his birth in 1975 to University of Kentucky Medical Center.

As a transfusion was being readied, the baby's grandmother suggested to doctors that he looked like the "blue Fugates of Troublesome Creek." Relatives described the boy's great-grandmother Luna Fugate as "blue all over," and "the bluest woman I ever saw."

In an unusual story that involves both genetics and geography, an entire family from isolated Appalachia was tinged blue. Their ancestral line began six generations earlier with a French orphan, Martin Fugate, who settled in Eastern Kentucky.

Doctors don't see much of the rare blood disorder today, because mountain people have dispersed and the family gene pool is much more diverse.

But the Fugates' story still offers a window into a medical mystery that was solved through modern genetics and the sleuth-like energy of Dr. Madison Cawein III, a hematologist at the University of Kentucky's Lexington Medical Clinic.

Cawein died in 1985, but his family charts and blood samples led to a sharper understanding of the recessive diseases that only surface if both parents carry a defective gene.

The most detailed account, "Blue People of Troublesome Creek," was published in 1982 by the University of Indiana's Cathy Trost, who described Benjy's skin as "almost purple."

The Fugate progeny had a genetic condition called methemoglobinemia, which was passed down through a recessive gene and blossomed through intermarriage.

"It's a fascinating story," said Dr. Ayalew Tefferi, a hematologist from Minnesota's Mayo Clinic. "It also exemplifies the intersection between disease and society, and the danger of misinformation and stigmatization."

Methemoglobinemia is a blood disorder in which an abnormal amount of methemoglobin -- a form of hemoglobin -- is produced, according to the National Institutes for Health. Hemoglobin is responsible for distributing oxygen to the body and without oxygen, the heart, brain and muscles can die.

In methemoglobinemia, the hemoglobin is unable to carry oxygen and it also makes it difficult for unaffected hemoglobin to release oxygen effectively to body tissues. Patients' lips are purple, the skin looks blue and the blood is "chocolate colored" because it is not oxygenated, according to Tefferi.

"You almost never see a patient with it today," he said. "It's a disease that one learns about in medical school and it is infrequent enough to be on every exam in hematology."

The disorder can be inherited, as was the case with the Fugate family, or caused by exposure to certain drugs and chemicals such as anesthetic drugs like benzocaine and xylocaine. The carcinogen benzene and nitrites used as meat additives can also be culprits, as well as certain antibiotics, including dapsone and chloroquine.

The genetic form of methemoglobinemia is caused by one of several genetic defects, according to Tefferi. The Fugates probably had a deficiency in the enzyme called cytochrome-b5 methemoglobin reductase, which is responsible for recessive congenital methemoglobinemia.

Normally, people have less than about 1 percent of methemoglobin, a type of hemoglobin that is altered by being oxidized so is useless in carrying oxygen in the blood. When those levels rise to greater than 20 percent, heart abnormalities and seizures and even death can occur.

But at levels of between 10 and 20 percent a person can develop blue skin without any other symptoms. Most of blue Fugates never suffered any health effects and lived into their 80s and 90s.

"If you are between 1 percent and 10 percent, no one knows you have an abnormal level and this might be the case in a lot of unsuspecting patients," he said.

Many other recessive gene diseases, such as sickle cell anemia, Tay Sachs and cystic fibrosis can be lethal, he said.

"If I carry a bad recessive gene with a rare abnormality and married, the child probably wouldn't be sick, because it's very rare to meet another person with the [same] bad gene and the most frequent cause therefore is in-breeding," Tefferi said.

Such was the case with the Fugates.

Martin Fugate came to Troublesome Creek from France in 1820 and family folklore says he was blue. He married Elizabeth Smith, who also carried the recessive gene. Of their seven children, four were reported to be blue.

There were no railroads and few roads outside the region, so the community remained small and isolated. The Fugates married other Fugate cousins and families who lived nearby, with names like Combs, Smith, Ritchie and Stacy.

Benjy's father, Alva Stacy showed Trost his family tree and remarked, "If you'll notice -- I'm kin to myself," according to Trost.

One of Martin and Elizabeth Fugate's blue boys, Zachariah, married his mother's sister. One of their sons, Levy, married a Ritchie girl and had eight children, one of them Luna. Luna married John E. Stacy and they had 13 children.

Benjy descended from the Stacy line.

Modern Fugates Still in Kentucky

ABCNews.com was unable to determine if Benjamin Stacy is still alive -- he would be 37 today. Trost writes that he eventually lost the blue tint to his skin, but as a child his lips and fingernails still got blue when he was angry or cold.

His mother Hilda Stacy, who is 56, appears to still live in Hazard, Ky., but did not answer calls to her home. Other relatives are scattered throughout Virginia and Arkansas.

Most of what scientists know about the family was discovered by Cawein, the grandson of Kentucky's poet laureate, who had done pioneering research on L-dopa as a treatment for Parkinson's disease.

Later in 1965 he was famous for another reason. His wife was murdered by chemical poisoning, but no one was ever indicted.

Cawein heard rumors about the Fugates while working at his Lexington clinic and set off "tromping around the hills looking for blue people," according to Trost's account.

At an American Heart Association clinic in the town of Hazard, Cawein found a nurse, Ruth Pendergrass, and she was willing to assist. She remembered a dark blue woman who had come to the county health department on a frigid afternoon seeking a blood test.

"Her face and her fingernails were almost indigo blue," she told Trost. "It like scared me to death. She looked like she was having a heart attack. I just knew that patient was going to die right there in the health department, but she wasn't a'tall alarmed. She told me that her family was the blue Combses who lived up on Ball Creek. She was a sister to one of the Fugate women."

More families were found -- Luke Combs, and Patrick and Rachel Ritchie, who were "bluer'n hell" and embarrassed by their skin color.

Cawein and Pendergrass began to ask questions -- "Do you have any relatives who are blue?" -- and mapped a family tree and took blood samples.

The doctor suspected methemoglobinemia and uncovered a 1960 report in the Journal of Clinical Investigation. Dr. E. M. Scott, who worked in public health at the Arctic Research Center in Anchorage, had seen a recessive genetic trait among Alaskans that turned their skin blue.

That suggested an inbred line that had been passed from generation to generation. To get the disorder, a person would have to inherit two genes -- one from each parent. When both parents have the trait, their children have a 25 percent chance of getting the disorder.

Scott speculated these people lacked the enzyme diaphorase in their red blood cells. Normally diaphorase converts methemoglobin back to hemoglobin.

All of the blue Fugates he tested had the enzyme deficiency, just like the Alaskans Scott had observed.

Their blood had accumulated so much of the blue molecule that it over-powered the red hemoglobin that normally turns skin pink in most Caucasians.

The bluest of the bunch was Luna, and she lived a healthy life, bearing 13 children before she died at the age of 84.

As coal mining arrived in Kentucky in 1912 and the Fugates moved outside of Troublesome Creek, the blue people began to disappear.

Doctors say Benjy likely carried only one gene for methemoglobinemia, because he eventually had normal skin tones, and the likelihood of him marrying a woman with the same recessive gene would have been small.

By the time reports appeared in the media on the disorder, the Stacy family was upset with insinuations about in-breeding that fed into stereotypes of backwoods Appalachia.

"There was a pain not seen in lab tests," wrote Trost. "That was the pain of being blue in a world that is mostly shades of white to black."

Friday, February 17, 2012

Bile bebudak bagi pendapat pasal COUPLE.

Sumpah lawak n sengih sorang2 masa baca artikel ni..uhuhu¬

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A couple is kind of like a recipe with just two ingredients. You mix them together and — wow! — interesting stuff can happen. Milk and chocolate syrup turn into ... mmmm ... chocolate milk. Combine milk and pickle juice and the results are not so yummy. And sometimes the stuff you mix — like root beer and vanilla ice cream — will bubble, fizz, and nearly explode!

So it's no wonder that girls and guys are interested in those romantic recipes called couples. In fact, more than 4,000 kids — most of them between 9 and 12 — answered our survey on what makes a great couple. The No. 1 answer was that people who make a great couple are different, but in a way that works really well — like peanut butter and jelly. The No. 2 response was that great couples make each other laugh.

And whom did kids choose as their all-time favorite couple? Vanessa and Zac? Hermione and Ron from Harry Potter? Will and Jada Smith? Nope. It was Mom and Dad.

Isela, 12, chose her parents because "they're kind of from two different backgrounds but they couldn't fit better together."

Victor, 12, says his parents are his favorite couple because "they make me happy whenever they are together."

Grandma and Grandpa rated high as well. That's who Ashley, 12, chose as her favorite couple. "They are fun and make each other mad, but always work it out," she said.

As for herself, Ashley isn't interested in a boyfriend right now. "Everyone thinks you should have a boyfriend but it is really stupid, I want to concentrate on school."

But Caiti, 10, named herself and her boyfriend as her favorite couple. "We make each other laugh and we have a good time when we're together," she said.


Half of Kids Have Been Part of a Couple

Like Caiti, half of the kids surveyed said they already had been part of a couple, though with mixed results. About 50% said being in a couple was good and only 5% said it was a bad experience. But 45% said it was a little bit of both.

You take two people who both say, "Hey, you're the one for me." But what happens next? It's common for young couples to stay a couple for a while and then realize, "Hey, you're not the one for me after all."

One or both people might decide they like someone else. And sometimes a person is just not comfortable having a girlfriend or boyfriend. It's perfectly understandable. Lots of kids told us about how funny it feels to be part of a couple for the first time. Sure, it's fun and gives you that warm feeling inside, but in other ways it's just so strange. Someone is holding my hand and maybe wants to kiss me? Cool! Gross! What do I do now?

Timmy, 12, said he had a girlfriend for about a month and the best part was hanging out together. The worst part was "not knowing what to say when I talked to her."

And 12-year-old Jade said she liked knowing the other person returned her feelings, but the worst thing was "trying not to embarrass yourself every time you're around them — easier said than done."

Other kids said they didn't like feeling pressure to spend time with that person all the time. And many said they felt like they couldn't talk to their friends who were boys or friends who were girls for fear it would look like they were flirting or cheating. Being part of a couple sometimes means being stared at or talked about, both boys and girls said.

Tanya, 12, had a boyfriend for 2 months and didn't like that "the whole world gets to know your business."

And Melissa, 12, noticed that things didn't go quite back to normal after she and a friend stopped being boyfriend and girlfriend. "It never lasts as long as you want it to. And you're not as close as friends anymore," she said.

While about 30% of kids said they stayed a couple for a year or longer, most relationships ended more quickly. About 35% ended in less than a month, with about 14% making it only a week or less.

Break-Ups Are Common

But before you get too worried about all these couples breaking up, know that it's perfectly normal. It would be boring if everyone paired up in fifth grade and stayed together forever.

When you're a tween (between a kid and a teen), you get to try different things and imagine what it will be like someday when you are older. That's why it's OK if you're like Olivia, 9, and you don't want to be part of a couple just yet. "I'm still young," she said.

So true! Olivia, like most of the kids we surveyed, thought 13 or older would be the right age to be part of a couple. Of kids who said they hadn't had a boyfriend or girlfriend yet, 67% said they'd like to be part of a couple someday.

Most Choose Marriage . . . Someday

And looking way down the road, almost 90% of kids said they wanted to get married in the future. The top reason (54%) was that they wanted to have children and be a family. Lots of kids (33%) also said they wanted someone who would stick with them in good and bad times.

For those who said they didn't want to get married, here's why: It sounds boring (30%); forever is too long (29%); they didn't think they would ever find someone; or they didn't think they could ever pick just one person (16%).

But most kids wanted to get married and not just for a little while. About 85% said they would like to stay married for 50 years or more. That's 50 Valentine's Days with the same person — whoa!

But for now, how can kids celebrate Valentine's Day with the people they like? Lots of girls and guys said they'd use their cell phone to show they cared. Nearly half said they'd put their boyfriend's or girlfriend's photo on their cell phone. Others said they'd assign that person a special ringtone (21%) or text the person constantly (20%).

Kids were even willing to do some of the silly, romantic things couples sometimes do, like give each other cute nicknames (32%), write love poems or letters (18%), or wear matching outfits (12%).

But the No. 1 answer was to put two straws in the same drink and slurp together. What a sweet way to celebrate Valentine's Day! What will it be — chocolate milk, pickle juice and milk, or a bubbly, fizzy root beer float?

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Source : http://kidshealth.org/kid/talk/kidssay/couples.html#


Thursday, December 15, 2011

Doa Cari Jodoh

Ya Allah..

Peluklah hati ini di saat aku mulai merasa gelisah,dalam penantian penuh kesabaran ini, kadang-kadang hatiku merasa rindu pada dia insan yang ku cintai dalam diamku

Ya Rabb..
Biarlah kusimpul dalam setiap doa-doa dalam Istikharahku kepada-MU perasaan ini, agar kelak Engkau satukan hatinya dan hatiku yang untuk bertaut dan bersemi indah kerana Redha-MU Ya ALLAH….

Ya Rabb…
Tuntunlah Hati hambamu ini agar aku hanya mahu menerima CINTA seorang Insan yang benar-benar pilihan-MU bukan semata-mata pilihan nafsuku

Ya Rabb...
Jika dia memang baik untukku, agamaku, masa depan dunia dan akhiratku,boleh membimbing dan membawaku lebih dekat pada-Mu, Maka dekatkanlah diriku dengannya dan satukanlah kami dalam pernikahan yang sakinah, mawaddah dan warrahmah.

Tapi kalau bukan dia yang terbaik, Maka jangan biarkan kekagumanku menjadi suka apalagi cinta, Jadikanlah kekaguman ku sama seperti orang lain kagum padanya, Engkaulah Maha Mengetahui. Maka kutitipkan rasa ini, kuserahkan semuanya pada-Mu,kerana semua ini adalah milik-Mu..

Copy & Paste direct from : Si Lampu Neon

Aamiin ya Rabbal’ alamiin


Jodoh itu sesuatu yang sungguh misteri. Rahsia Allah yang mempunyai aturannya sendiri. Cepat atau lambat bukan kita yang pinta. Cepat bertemu jodoh? Alhamdulillah. Allah sayang kamu maka diberinya sedikit nikmat dunia yang halal untuk kamu ke syurga jika betul caranya. Lambat bertemu jodoh? Allah lebih menyayangi kamu. Maka diberinya sedikit ujian dengan harapan kamu akan bersabar dan terus berusaha, bertawakal, dan bergantung harap pada-Nya. Sesungguhnya Allah Maha Mengetahui. (^^,)

P/S : Jadi, sila JANGAN TANYA SOALAN CEPUKMAS :
bila nak kawen?
dah ada boyapren ke?
dan yang seangkatan dengannya.
lalalala~

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Rahsia Adik-Beradik (COPY & PASTE - FACEBOOK)

RAHSIA PERANGAI ANAK =)

♥ Anak Sulung
Anak sulung merupakan cahaya mata pertama di dalam keluarga dan menjadi tumpuan kasih sayang dan perhatian ibu bapa. sehinggalah kedatangan adik baru. Namun apabila mereka meningkat remaja, mereka lebih pandai membawa diri masing-masing dan sanggup berkorban demi demi adik-adik.

... Ciri-ciri yang ada pada mereka ialah :

* anak sulung dikaitkan dengan sikap pelindung, suka bertolak ansur, serta ego.
* sering berjaya dalam hidup.
* lebih pandai mengambil hati orang tua.
* mempunyai nilai tanggung jawab yang tinggi.

♥ Anak Tengah

Biasanya anak tengah lebih pelik sedikit dari anak-anak yang lain. Mereka lebih gemar berdikari dan membuat hal sendiri. ini kerana mereka adalah antara yang paling kurang ‘favourite’ di kalangan adik-beradik yang lain. Seringkali mereka juga teras terpinggir. Dalam banyak hal mereka merasakan diri mereka dipaksa untuk mengalah kepada si sulung atau si bongsu. Sebab itu di kalangan mereka juga kadangkala mudah dilanda tekanan. Oleh itu, anak tengah juga cuba untuk melakukan yang terbaik bagi diri mereka tanpa mengharapkan bantuan orang lain.

Ciri-ciri yang ada pada mereka ialah :

* lebih berdikari berbanding dengan si sulung atau adik beradik yang lain.
* lebih percaya dengan keyakinan sendiri.
* suka mencuri perhatian dengan cara tersendiri.
* sering merasakan diri mereka terpinggir.
* terlalu mengalah

♥ Anak Bongsu

Mendengar ungkapan anak bongsu saja cukup memadai untuk membuat tafsiran bagaimanakah sikap anak bongsu. Mereka sering digambarkan sebagai seorang yang manja dan besar kepala dan mahukan orang lain mengikut kehendak mereka sahaja. Mereka perlukan orang lain untuk melakukan apa saja dalam hidup. Sering dikatakan mereka kurang berjaya dalam hidup memandangkan sikap ketidakpercaya ibu bapa terhadap mereka. Biarpun mereka berjaya namun sikap ibu bapa sendiri membuatkan hidup mereka terbatas. Mungkin ibu bapa sentiasa berasakan anak bongsu memerlukan perlindungan mereka buat selama-lamanya.

Ciri-ciri yang ada pada mereka ialah :

* happy go-lucky dan yakin diri.
* manja.
* berkeinginan dan bercita-cita tinggi.
* sukar membuat keputusan sendiri.